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Mum and daughter who were diagnosed of cancer weeks apart, reveal how they fought and survived it

A mum and daughter who went through breast cancer treatment at the same time have now revealed how they battled the disease together while urging others to do check themselves and never be complacent.Jan Jeffery, 59, and Fern Maxted, 35, have told their story about being diagnosed within just weeks of one another at the start of Breast Cancer Awareness Month this October. “I found a tiny lump a year before I was diagnosed, and went to the two-week breast clinic, and had all the checks done. And I did the ultrasound and they told me it was just ageing, normal ageing.’Jan told Metro UK It wasnt that long after actually that the lump started to grow and I just thought, thats just a cyst, its just getting bigger. And I thought when Ive got time, Ill go back and get him to drain it. And I just sat on it for months, and it kind of got bigger and bigger.I never at any point really did think it was cancer because I dont tend to do that. I tend to think itd be something else. I just thought it would be fine.When she returned to the doctor in June 2022, she was sent for another ultrasound where she was told no thats not a cyst and she nearly fell through the floor upon realising it was breast cancer. When you first get diagnosed, the first thing you do is think about your own funeral, added Jan, who is an English teacher at Highworth Grammar School in Ashford, Kent, UK. Then, once I got over the shock I started to think well, Im nearly 60, Ive had a really lovely, lucky life and Ive seen my kids grow up. I have grandchildren. Id rather not die this early but I havent done badly.But Jan, said the one thing keeping her going was thinking, Thank God its not the children.Byt two weeks later while sitting with Fern in the garden in the sun when her daughter said: I think Ive found a bit of a lump that Im going to get checked out Im sure its nothing, though. I would always sort of check in the shower when I was having a wash but I couldnt feel anything in the shower. It was only when I was actually laying down. Mums was like a rock, but mine felt more like a this is absolutely grim sort of a cooked cauliflower, like a thickening. If I laid at a slight angle you might see a kind of dimpling in the skin.Fern, said she also had pain under her armpit and down her arm.Obviously this was my lymph nodes, and if I had felt under my armpits and taken enlarged lumps a bit more seriously rather than thinking it was explained easily, I might have picked it up earlier, she explained.Jan and Fern stressed the importance of checking every month minimum in different positions, and not just the breasts but all around the chest such as under the arms and around the collarbones.Fern said when she had biopsies on her breasts it was when the penny really dropped.You kind of realise that youve got cancer at that point, and all of a sudden, you are just a piece of meat on the table, added Fern, who is mum to Presley, 12, Isabella, 10, and Matilda, 5.I resigned myself to the idea that this is going to be terminal straight away. I started thinking about my children and what Im gonna get to see, and then you have that horrible wait for scans.So I went for about two weeks thinking Im going to have to get used to the fact that Im not going to be here very long. I saw my little boys leavers service in Year 6, and wondered if Id get to see my girls ones.But thankfully it hadnt spread and was locally advanced which means the cancer is likely to return so they took Fern straight in for a mastectomy.Women dont worry about this so much because they think they can just have a boob job, Fern said. But thats not the case. I cant have a reconstruction because of the medication I am on for at least two-and-a-half years. I dont have a boob on one side and theres no other way of saying it it looks really horrific.Fern received her diagnosis in July 2022, the day before her mum started chemotherapy.The night before I started chemo I was just laying on the settee crying partly because they give you steroids and they make you a bit wired but I would have been awake all night thinking about Fern, anyway, Jan added.When your kids are ill all you want to do is look after them, but the thought of not being able to because I might be ill myself is really difficult.But we did juggle through. My husband, Colin, is around a lot and we were able to fully support each other as families but were so lucky we were in a position to be able to do that. Obviously I would never wish for my daughter or myself to have cancer, but having it at the same time was weirdly comforting in a way because I know exactly what shes going through Im not on the outside trying to understand.She had a rougher ride than I did but my hair fell out and I had that gruelling chemo, so I do know what its like. Its a strange kind of silver lining.If Fern hadnt had the genetic test, I wouldnt have had it and Id be sitting here now with another quite big cancer growing. So Fern has kind of saved me from having to go through this all again as well. When Fern finally started her chemotherapy, she had a reaction to one of the drugs and went into anaphylactic shock.As the medication started going in, the nurses that were in the room were dealing with another patient facing the other way, she said. The only way I could describe it is it felt like an elephant was sitting on my chest and I couldnt breathe. I could barely get any words out and I thought, this is it. I actually thought I was going to die in that chair. Luckily the nurse heard me and she turned around, cut it all off and stopped the chemo. Then it felt like I had to go back to the beginning. The post Mum and daughter who were diagnosed of cancer weeks apart, reveal how they fought and survived it appeared first on Linda Ikeji Blog.

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